What ADHD Looks Like in Women (It’s Not What You Think)

When most people think of ADHD, they picture a hyperactive young boy who can’t sit still in class. But in women, ADHD often looks very different — and because of this, it frequently goes unrecognized or misdiagnosed. At Stillwaters, we know how important it is to shed light on the unique ways ADHD shows up in women, so you can better understand yourself or a loved one.

The Subtle Presentation of ADHD in Women

Instead of outward hyperactivity, women often experience internal restlessness. You may appear calm on the outside, but inside, your thoughts are racing. This can lead to:

• Constant multitasking without finishing tasks

• Feeling mentally “cluttered” or scattered

• Struggling to prioritize or follow through

Emotional Regulation and Sensitivity

Many women with ADHD describe themselves as highly sensitive, easily overwhelmed, or quick to feel emotions intensely. While this isn’t often seen in the stereotypical picture of ADHD, it is a core part of how ADHD affects women’s lives.

The Masking Effect

From a young age, girls are often socialized to be organized, polite, and accommodating. Women with ADHD may become experts at masking — hiding their struggles, working twice as hard to appear “on top of things,” and secretly battling exhaustion, shame, or self-doubt.

Misdiagnosis and Overlooked Symptoms

Because ADHD symptoms in women overlap with anxiety, depression, or even hormonal changes, many women are misdiagnosed or dismissed. Instead of receiving the support they need, they may hear:

• “You’re just stressed.”

• “You’re too emotional.”

• “Everyone forgets things sometimes.”

Hope and Healing at Stillwaters

The truth is: ADHD in women is real, valid, and treatable. With the right care — whether through holistic strategies, psychotherapy, or thoughtful medication management — women can find clarity, calm, and confidence.

At Stillwaters, we specialize in supporting women through their mental health journeys, creating a space where you are seen, understood, and empowered to thrive.